“I get angry when I have too much homework!”
Just completed 3-parts emotional management lesson with a group of children. This issue of homework came up for a boy who is in Primary One. According to him, there is school homework, academic tuition homework, enrichment class homework and revision homework assigned by his parents. It takes 1 to 2 hours to complete everything everyday.
Even though he is a strong learner, he gets angry with his parents by refusing to start on them. Getting him to do his task becomes a daily struggle and he flares up easily. If your child feels overstretched, it is time to examine his/her schedule and make adjustments. In this boy’s case, I’m glad his parent is open and willing to make changes in his homework routine to reduce homework and include more playtime for him. Always strive for a win-win.
Here are steps to help manage situations like this:
When your child expresses anger or frustration about the homework load, listen attentively to their concerns. Let them share their feelings and thoughts without interrupting or immediately offering solutions.
Show empathy by acknowledging your child’s feelings. Let them know that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and that you understand their frustration.
Explore the Cause:
Ask your child to explain why they feel the homework is excessive. Are they struggling with time management, finding the work too difficult, or feeling stressed for other reasons? Understanding the underlying causes will help you address the issue more effectively.
Communicate with Teachers:
If the amount of homework seems genuinely excessive, consider reaching out to your child’s teachers to discuss your concerns. Open communication can lead to a more balanced workload. In some schools, teacher adopt the good practice of stagger homework system to avoid over-taxing a child.
Teach Time Management:
Help your child develop effective time management skills. Teach them how to break down their homework into manageable tasks and set a schedule. This can make the workload feel less overwhelming.
Create a Homework Routine:
Establish a consistent homework routine that includes designated study times, a quiet and organized study space, and clear expectations. This routine can reduce stress and anxiety.
Break Tasks into Smaller Parts:
Help your child break their homework into smaller, manageable portions. Completing one task at a time can make the workload appear less daunting.
Offer to help your child with their homework or provide support when needed. Sometimes, a little guidance can alleviate their frustration.
Maintain a calm and patient demeanor, especially if your child becomes angry. Avoid reacting with anger, frustration, or impatience, as it can escalate the situation.
Suggest short breaks during study sessions to give your child time to relax and recharge. This can improve their focus and prevent burnout.
Acknowledge your child’s hard work and accomplishments. Celebrate their successes, even if they are small, to boost their confidence.
Seek Professional Help if Necessary:
If your child’s anger and frustration persist, and you suspect there may be underlying issues, consider consulting a school counselor or child psychologist for guidance.
Promote a Balanced Lifestyle:
Encourage a balanced lifestyle that includes time for extracurricular activities, hobbies, and social interactions. A well-rounded life can help reduce the stress associated with excessive homework.
Remember that it’s crucial to maintain a supportive and understanding approach when addressing your child’s anger related to homework. Open communication and collaboration will help them learn to manage their workload more effectively and develop resilience in the face of challenges.
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